Game, Set, Match.com

courtesy of marieclaire.com

So let me get this straight, a man who has been convicted of sexual assault, not once, twice or three times, not four or five times, but SIX times is looking for a date? Ha, good luck with that. You would have to join a dating site and hide your true identity and hope that no one would ever ask about your past. I wonder if there could be such a place? A place where one’s past can’t find them. Where murderers, rapists, child molesters, deadbeat dads and drug addicts could go to find true love. It would be like getting a second chance at true love, or a victim. Where? Where could one go?

I can only assume that the actor playing Aaron on his real first date didn’t go home with Mindy afterwards and rape her.

There are so many stories I hear about online dating. “It’s a great place to hook up”, “I met my boyfriend online”, “bro, I can slam anyone of these girls and then when I’m done, just delete my profile.” Thanks ____________ for that last one. He’s the douche bag, who I’m sure one of you knows, that someone is dating right now.

Fact is, dating is hard nowadays and the idea of finding someone online is great, but when your option is, possibly dating Ted Bundy VS. staying at home, I’ll take door number two all day and twice on Sunday. I want to experience life, not death.

Match.com F’d up, but they are not the only ones. These companies have made millions on introducing people online and put no money into the safety of those individuals. Sure, they are going to lose millions doing individual background checks, but in the long run, it’s the best investment they could make. Match.com now does the investigating for you, because you are paying them to! What a smart idea and business model.

I’m single and enjoy my “me” time and going out on dates. The last thing I want to have to worry about after a long day at work is coming home, getting redressed up to meet a girl, go out with her and find out that a blind man, who is blindfolded in a dark room could do a better job of picking someone that is less likely to kill me. This is not the only scenario. All the people mentioned in the opening paragraph can also be women.  

My fingers are crossed for all those out there looking for love, but let’s stop and take a look at us. If we have to go to a website, what does that mean? Have we become so far removed from society that we look to technology to bring us back in to something that was once normal?

We all have our idea of our perfect someone. I’ve seen some of the most beautiful women with ugly men and vice-versa. No one can stop two people from falling in love, but it takes time. Look at an online profile and see someone at there best, but you don’t get to see the worst. It’s a freeze frame of how they would like to be remembered.

I say, Take a chance, leave the house once a week and get out there. Hang out with your friends, but be looking for someone who peaks your interest. Don’t take or settle for second best. We are all unique people and looks fade. Find someone you want to wake up next to in the morning. If you have that person already, you are one of the lucky ones. For the millions of us still searching for that person, time is not on our side. Try to make a conscience effort to get out there and put yourself out there. If online dating is your thing, go with it, but don’t become an expert at it. Always keep your eyes open and your head on a swivel, because while you are looking at that amazing profile of Juan Pablo or Jessica Rabbit, the person on the other side of that profile may want to kill you.

Just Saying